SIngleness brings Opportunity

Something God has put on my heart for quite sometime now goes out to the all the girls and guys searching for a romantically involved relationship.

For warning, I myself have NEVER been in a romantic relationship and I do not clam to know everything. However, I feel like God has been telling me these things in my life, so that I can work on myself. I also think God wants me to share this with others so that what is said here will benefit His kingdom, even if it only helps one person.

First I will speak to the girls, then to the guys. So if you are a guy, it won't hurt my feelings if you skip to guy section of this blog.

Girls:

Welcome to the waiting period in your love life, rather that be that it has been put on hold or it hasn't even started yet. I believe that if your heart longs for that special relationship, then God is going to grant your desire and send you someone.

God is preparing you for someone. This is the time where you need to focus on being "perfectly perfected in the will of God".

Now I know you are asking "How can I be perfect when no one is?" Great question. When I say "Perfectly perfected in the will of God" I by no means what so ever mean for you to be perfect in any way. What I do mean is this; God has given you a special time to grow close to Him. Rather that be by making yourself better as a person or cleaning up the "mess" of a person you have become or just trying to find God's will and draw near to him. God has basically said, "You have been praying that you would have some time to work on you and our relationship, here I have given you this time! Now what you do in this time is up to you!" All I am saying is that You want a guy to be in God's will, so you should be too. Also, know that no guy can "fix" you, ONLY God can.

Draw near to God! You expect God to send you this great Godly man when you yourself are not a great Godly woman. Now stay with me here. You can find peace in this waiting period. And you never know what you can find out about yourself when you are not constantly worrying about messing up a relationship. Plus, wouldn't it be nice to know that when you do get in a relationship with a guy you have already put your faith, hope, trust, and love in God first?? I think it will be quite rewarding!

When You enter into that relationship...Ladies YOU can Not expect to be treated like a queen, when you don't treat him like a king. You have been praying for God to send you this man so treat him well. Therefore set boundaries and make sure that God is at the very center of your relationship. Be honest about your feelings. And when the time comes, intentionally pray together about the future.

Continue reading at: Last thoughts to girls and guys

Guys:

Hey, what's up? So all your cool guy friends are in a relationship, but you aren't. So what do you do? well here is a little advice: Take this amazing opportunity that God has so kindly blessed you with and work on yourself and your relationship with Him.

God is preparing you for someone! This is the time where you need to focus on being "perfectly perfected in the will of God". When I say "Perfectly perfected in the will of God" I by no means what so ever mean for you to be perfect in any way. What I do mean is this; God has given you a special time to grow close to Him. Rather that be by making yourself better as a person or cleaning up the "mess" of a person you have become or just trying to find God's will and draw near to him. God has basically said, "You have been praying that you would have some time to work on you and our relationship, here I have given you this time! Now what you do in this time is up to you!" All I am saying is that You want a girl to be in God's will, so you should be too. Also, know that no girl can "fix" you, ONLY God can.

Draw close to God! The best thing you can do with your life at any point in your life is draw close to God. Some girl out there is praying for you as her future husband. That means that one day you will be the head of the household. Therefore your relationship with God is the most important thing in the world. Spend time in God's word and seek after His kingdom. I don't mean to scare you or put too much pressure on you, but just like just like you are praying for your future wife, she is praying for you to be the man of God she needs. This is the time where you get to work on that man without the distraction of a girlfriend.

Before You enter into that relationship... pursue her first!!! Just as Christ pursues the church! I wish I could say that louder for the people in the back.

When You enter into that relationship... It would make the girl feel a lot safer and more likely to trust you, if you set boundaries first. It would also let her know that she can talk about her wants in the relationship. Always put God first, even over her. Because if the girl gets mad that you praise God more than you praise her, then she is not the godly woman God has for you. In everything yall do, put God first. Be the godly example for her. Have bible studies together, and most importantly pray together.

Continue reading at: Last thoughts to girls and guys

Last thoughts to girls and guys

-Have a tight relationship with God and yourself before you add someone else to the mix.

-Work on yourself, spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally.

-Pray for your future spouse

-Find peace in being single.

-Don't be ashamed or embarrassed that you are single, this time is a blessing.

-ALWAYS start out as friends.

-Date to marry then once you are married, marry to date.

-Never stop learning about each other.

Singleness as the Bible sees it:

1 Corinthians 7:8-9

8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Psalm 37:4

4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.